Self-sabotage is when one part of yourself is not in agreement with another part of yourself and stops that other part of yourself from getting what it wants, by creating internal and even manifesting external conflict. This is much more common than you think simply because each person has at least 2 selves. We have our physical self and our Soul Conscious self.

Our Soul perceives the world to be limitless. It’s fearless, not constricted to space or time. The Soul is eternal, expansive and can’t die. It’s chose to come and experience it’s limitless existence here on the playground of Earth through a Human Avatar. Now our Human self however is limited by time and laws of this Earth. There’s gravity, time, death and basic physical needs in order to survive. So if a Soul was to say to it’s human “Let’s fly off that cliff!” The human would say “You’re crazy! You can’t do that you’ll die!” to which of course the Soul would reply “Why not?” It doesn’t understand the negative consequences that can occur from this action. Just like a video game it thinks oh well if this one dies I have another life!

This is an obvious extreme case but what about when it comes to a daily occurrence. Imagine you’re a Woman Human and your Soul gets attracted to a Male Soul that walks by. Immediately your Soul self says “Hey let’s go connect with that Man” but your Human self starts to get anxiety and scared, hormones start to race, you get the sweats and your Human self stops dead in its tracks paralyzed by fear. Your Soul is left confused, “What are you doing, let’s go talk to that Man!” It doesn’t understand the rules of conduct in this existence.

Every time you come up against a conflict like this within you between your 2 parts it’s actually you trying to keep you safe, or you trying to make you have new experiences. The problem occurs when one part of you wants to go one direction and the other part of you wants to go in the other direction. The only way to resolve this is to get both parts of the self on the same page. Both parts must find a Win/Win resolution.

Whatever you want to do or experience in life where you feel there may be an internal conflict investigate that part of yourself that is in resistance. Ask it as many questions as possible, What does it want? What does it desire? What is it afraid of? What is it needing right now? What is it’s motives and inspirations? Once you get a good understanding of why, and generally most of the time it’s our physical self that is in conflict with our Spiritual Soul self try to come up with a resolution or agreement on what will make both your Spirit Self and your physical self happy. Always remember that one part of you is operating from a place of feeling limitless and the other is operating from a place of feeling physical limits. Spirit self can move faster whereas physical self is more dense and takes time to create movement and change. Whichever way you can get both parts to avoid resistance to each other and move in the same direction towards one common goal do that. It will create integration, internal peace and trust within your selves, knowing that each self will be heard, respected and acknowledged.

by Carla Savannah