|Posted on 23 May, 2019 at 10:25|
As we all know Anxiety can be debilitating. But have you ever wondered why is it that the only animals that suffer from anxiety are animals that spend long periods of time with humans?
Animals are instinctual. Something happens and they react instinctually without thinking! Humans are different. Humans have a small time gap between what’s happened and how they react. This gap is what makes us special. This gap allows us an opportunity to rationalise what’s just happened and make an appropriate choice.
Being able to make the most of this delay between action/reaction is the secret to overcoming anxiety. Here’s an example: if someone gives some constructive criticism and you were in animal instincts reaction mode you may quickly snap a come back attack. If you were to take a moment to think “Does what this person said have any truth to it?” You may ACT completely different.
The longer that gap is for you the more questions you’d have time to ask yourself and analyse before acting. Here is the pivotal moment where you can decipher what triggered you and why. Knowing what the trigger was and having the time to break it down gives you a heads up on what may be causing your anxiety.
In the criticism scenario above your trigger could have brought up feelings around “I’m not good enough, I’m not likeable, I’ll be abandoned, I don’t feel safe and supported....” and so on. The triggers always take us back to very primal survival needs so of course anxiety will arise from these triggers, Because our very physical or emotional survival has been threatened.
Once we start realising that our survival in that moment isn’t actually being threatened, and we can comfort our very basic primal needs for security, connection or love within that time gap only us humans have our anxiety no longer can get a hold of us. So slow everything down and Aim to increase this time gap and optimise your chances for getting a grip over your anxiety.
~ By Carla Savannah